Are you trying a friendship app for the first time? Don’t know where to start? We all often find ourselves in this situation where we are finally trying a friendship app to meet local friends, and are just about to send a ‘hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii’ when we stop.
‘Is this too much?’
‘Will I come across as desperate?’
‘Should I send a GIF instead?’
Well, you are not alone. There are many of us out there who do not know how to start a conversation online. Making friends online is relatively new and many of us struggle with it, everyone would be able to do it if all they have to do is google search ‘friends near me”. But that doesn’t mean it should stop you from making friends. In this article, we will talk about 5 ways you can start a conversation when you are trying to make new friends online. So let’s take a look:
- Start with a low pressure hello:
The first thing you need to know when you are talking to a new friend is that even that person in front of you is as nervous as you. They too are not sure how to start the conversation or have probably read this article. So do not stress out, you are not the only one. Now if you want to be the brave one and start the conversation, you need to remember what I just told you, the other person is also nervous. So your first text must make them comfortable, show them that you are approachable. Instead of sending a ‘Hi’ try ‘Hi, how is your day going so far?’ or ‘heyy, hope you are having a good one’.
Starting with this instantly reduces the pressure on the other person. They know how to reply instantly and they most certainly do.
- Use something from their profile:
One huge advantage of dosti apps is, everyone on the app has to create a profile. From here you get a better understanding of the person, and if you have something in common, it’s much easier to start a conversation.
It also shows the opposite person that you want to genuinely get to know them making it easier to chat with friends.
- Ask a simple, fun question:
When you are starting a conversation, you can also start with something light hearted and simple, something like – Quick question, what is your comfort food? Or what is your favorite game? And you can encourage them to play the game with you on the app. When a conversation starts like this, it lowers their guard and they will be more open to talking to you.
- Share small things about yourself first:
You can also choose to start off by telling something simple about yourself. Something like – I am new here on the app and I am trying to figure it out, what about you? When you don’t share too much the opposite person also doesn’t feel compelled to share information they won’t feel comfortable sharing.
- Keep the tone light and friendly:
Please avoid sounding like an interrogator. When you do, the opposite person feels like they are being judged. But when you use a calming tone, they feel safe themselves and that is where real friendships start.
In conclusion the best way to start off a conversation online is to know that even the opposite person is nervous, so don’t overthink it. Make them comfortable, talk about something from their profile, ask fun questions, but overall keep a friendly tone and everything will play out smoothly. And yes, sending a hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii is definitely a bad idea.